Live-in
Relationships are becoming quite prevalent in India these days. But
people here still have a concept that live-in relationships are all
about having sex and nothing more than that.
One
girl, with the name Udita Pal shared
her story and has
broken down the
ideas of people stereotyping live-in
relationships,
and highlights
what it is really like to be in it.
This is what she wrote:
“I practically live with my boyfriend” and
every time someone hears these words, they imagine monkey sex every
time couple hit their room but living with your partner is much more
than that. Once you start living with your boyfriend, you have more
than just physical intimacy, there are nights when you wake up in his
arms and then there are nights when he is scrolling down his emails.
Some afternoons you go out on romantic brunches and in some, you
watch movies on the bed. Being with your boyfriend all the time is
extremely draining because after a certain point you cannot ask
“What’s up?” anymore.
There will be days when you will argue about
him spending hours in the washroom when you are on pee spree and then
days when you will be seducing him into joining you into the shower.
Some nights you will wake up to his phone showing Tinder
notifications and some days he will be peeping into your WhatsApp
chats. Some may not like it, some may find it irritating, but this is
how relationships go. Life cannot be like a Sitcom where the moment
you enter your place you take off clothes and hump. Some nights you
will throw your bag and just crawl into bed with him and talk about
life. Sometimes you will ask uncomfortable questions about the
future, sometimes your alarms will go wrong and you will fuck up
office hours, some days you will cook for them to say sorry about the
other night and all but it will always be more than just having sex.
The very idea of living with boyfriend sounds
romantic, but it puts so many restrictions on you and brings power to
you at the same time. It triggers expectations of having a future
with him and when that scale doesn’t match it leads to a lot of
heated arguments and tears. Some nights you will wake up to him
coding and it will be hard to make him go back to sleep. He cannot
perform all the time; you cannot be in the mood all the time.
Sometimes you ask questions you are not supposed to and there are
some nights when you spend hours deciding what you will eat and last
but not the least, sometimes, you will have to share your last piece
of cake with them and you cannot help it.
This is what living with your boyfriend is
like- A roller coaster ride. And living with your boyfriend is much
more than sex.”
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