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Read here why Yuvraj Singh’s Sis-In-Law Akanksha could not have sex with her husband
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Do you know Akanksha w/o
Zoravar Singh- brother of famous cricketer Yuvraj Singh? She is the women behind
the loose talk about the cricketer’s family in the town. Akanksha’s stay at big
Boss house was short and she performed several tasks with a composed mind.
However, there was a lot of buzz about her outside the house.
She is struggling with a failed marriage life and is at the
edge of the divorce. She is been complaining about 'non-consummation of
marriage' and wants the divorce on the grounds of a sexless marriage.
Spotboye.com reached out to her and tried to know about her
part of the story. Here read the snapshot of the conversation
You
have been wanting to work in films and television. How has it been going?
I have been wanting to make it on my own after I ended my
marriage with Zoravar. I have been going through every possible audition in
Mumbai, but you know how the industry works. Either you compromise to grab your
part, or some aspirants have already been booked.
You
mean 'casting couch' is not your cup of tea?
I refused all offers which were based on 'casting couch'. If
I have talent, I will get work. If not, it's not my scene. Fair na? But I was
in advanced talks for a film which I let go because I got Bigg Boss in the
meantime.
Now that you have been evicted in just 2 weeks, do you
regret having turned down the film in question?
No, TV gave me much more than I imagined. The film wouldn't
have garnered as much viewership as Bigg Boss.
Has
Bigg Boss lived up to its standard this season? It slipped very badly last time
out...
I think it has met with a setback of sorts as far as this
season is concerned. Let me explain. These commoners you see on the show are
not the same in real life. Their take on life is different. They are actually a
bunch of very talented people. Their antics on screen are just meant to garner
eyeballs.
Were
you shocked when you were asked to leave?
I could not portray myself as I wanted. I was seeing issues
in the house which I was not able to relate to, and hence could not react
(pauses)> Meanwhile people outside were saying that I was addicted to drugs.
As long as I am not harming anybody's life and not addicted
to it, what's the brouhaha about?
You
said that your marriage with Zoravar did not consummate...
Yes, it did not. If it had, maybe I would have had a child
and since I was being constantly nagged by my mother-in-law (Shabnam) to
consummate my marriage , main toh phas jati na? I am not out to defame her,
what she did in her personal time is her life; I respect a woman's choices.
It is difficult to understand that you were with him for 4 months and yet you'll never had sex...
Zoravar and I did not connect on any level- neither mentally
nor physically. Wherever we went out, my mother-in-law tagged along. Suddenly
she would say 'Haath pakdo, Kiss karo. Kya aisa hota hai kya?' These things are
supposed to happen naturally.
My husband and I hardly spoke to each other, though I tried
to coax him into sharing his problems if any with me. However, he would simply
go to his mother and tell her everything that I was talking to him.
I still don't get it. Sex eventually happens in the bedroom
even if it is an arranged marriage of two people who didn't know each other at
all before marriage...
There has to be some comfort level and connect between a man
and woman. He had to make me feel like a woman isn't it? He has to make me feel
loved. I couldn't go and pounce on him and say 'Let's have sex'. He was
supposed to be the man I should have fallen back on but...
Go
on...
We slept on the same bed and kept pillows between us. And he used to snore very badly. So often, we ended up sleeping on different floors.
So he
never made the first move...
That's right. It was so uncomfortable. I think I would be
more comfortable in a friend's presence than Zoravar's. There has to be some
attraction between two people which leads them to have sex. Zoravar could never
man up to it. Meanwhile, my mother-in-law was forcing me to have sex with
Zoravar. Sex is not a chore. Sex is not a responsibility. We are not living in
medieval ages where sex is a compulsory product of marriage. What's the
difference between prostitution and having sex against your wishes? I decided
to leave the house after 4 months.
Did
your parents understand your plight?
Not immediately. I explained to them that 'Main insaan hoon
aur mujhe jeene ka haq hai'. But they wanted me to adjust. They did not support
me initially. It was only due to the support of my brother that I could pack my
bags and go back home.
Who
filed for divorce?
My husband, but obviously under his mother's orders. Even my
brother is a mama's boy but he has a mind of own.
Did
Yuvraj intervene and try to save your marriage?
He has his own life and he is taking care of the entire
family. I wouldn't run after him to plead that he should save my marriage.
Did he
speak to you about it?
Yes he did, he once told me that he knows that his mother
could get on my case and I should bear it a bit. But obviously he did not know
the extent to which I was being harassed by her.
If I was listening to some songs and going for a bath a
little late, she had a problem- itna that she used to call up my mother and
complain about it.
If she went out of the house, servants spied on me and told
me what to do and what to not do. They even took away my mobile. She even had
problems with my WhatsApp DPs, imagine!
A 26-year old man goes out with his 23-year old wife to a
party and his mother accompanies to drop them and even bring them back.
The man wants to play PS4 with his driver in his spare time
and even wants to sit with the driver in the front. How will intimacy develop
between him and his wife?
Did
Zoravar not get frustrated when he had no sex in marriage?
Okay, let me tell you how his brain works. Once, we went out
for coffee and he instructed me to not take any purse/money. We stopped at a
petrol pump and he got the car fueled for Rs 1,000. We reached the cafe and
there was a valet parking there. He turned around and said: Do you have some
money? I said 'Noooooo'. Did you understand? He had come out of the house with
Rs 1,000 and spent the entire 1,000 at the petrol pump! Honestly he is a very
nice person and I don't want to say anything ill about him, but I hope you
understand his thought process.
More
about Yuvraj?
Yuvraj is a wonderful
person. He is not a caretaker for sure, but he tells his brother jo chahiye woh
dunga.
Your
mother-in-law's equation with her ex-husband (Yuvraj's father Yograj Singh)?
She has a very bad equation with him. When Yograj was said
to be having cancer, she said, 'Achcha hua'. Who wishes like that for anybody
especially when one's own son has been through that?
The conversation extract is taken from spotboye.com
Image Credit: Big Boss
Image Credit: Big Boss
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